Always Positive
Thursday, October 23, 2014
As usual getting ready to school is a story by it's own, yet let me skip the details. Amidst of Daddy and Son having their arguments on yet another day in the morning, Thatha was trying to help grandson for getting his shoes on. Daddy already on the height of temper told Thatha(his daddy) to not do it. Appa neenga edhuvum panna vendam, sonnadhu kekkadha payanukku en ella velaiyum seyyareenga. Vidunga avane paathukattum. Son's reply 'apdilam solladheenga. apdi solla koodadhu. avanga pannattum' and yet again, all of daddy's bad temper was washed off by the innocence. Kids are always amazing and I wish adults carry that innocence!!
Another incident, now between Thatha and Grandson. After school is another story everyday and since grandparents are home to help the kids, it's a hearty laugh to hear the tales from them. Harshad when told what to do, will perform well. When instructions are not available, things fly into every corner he can see. So this was one of his hyper, excited, restless day and school bag fly into the foyer, shoes left uncared and he was on the lookout for some snacks. Just like all the kids, he thinks he can handle things himself when it comes to getting snacks from pantry, etc. I, knowing him have kept all the snacks on the top rack where he cannot reach easily, but to my dismay and I'm sure most parents will encounter this, he uses the shelf as his stairs and reaches the top. When he did the same, thatha took a stick, gave a light shout and pretended to hit him and what he did in response made us all forget his mischievousness. He silently came back to the sofa, sat there and asked ippo naan enna pannattum sollunga in a very soft voice. Do anyone even think of punishing him after this statement with a appavi face?
On the other hand, he knows his tactics very well is all I can say. Let kids be kids and help us forget few of the stress we have in day to day life.
Wednesday, August 13, 2014
A Look Back...
Well, here I'm after a year and quarter thinking on what to write for the blog. There's a lot that has happened in the past year, but what's more interesting and worthy to write? Let me think……
Friday, March 8, 2013
Her class teacher went on a parental leave, to welcome his new born son and to spend some time with him. During this time, he has been just wonderful in keeping in touch with his class kids via the Blackboard (website for class related updates). In one of his posts, he checked how the kids were doing, what their plans were for the new year and few other questions. He posted some pictures of his new born and asked them their favorite and what the baby might have been thinking when that photo was taken. I did not provide any help to Shreshu related to these questions. She reviewed few of the posts from other students and framed hers. I wasn't thinking this to be very important as it does not pertain to the grade or her success, which now I think was a ridiculous thought. So I paid little attention to what she wrote. Now it's been more than a month and accidentally checked her post/reply and was amazed with the way she had put the words. Every time something like this happens I promise myself to pay more attention to what she say and what she does. Now, below is the content that her teacher posted and her reply to it.
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Whisper for Strength!
Wow! It’s the end of the year again and I don’t even know how time flew off. This year was yet another smooth year I should say; no hassles at the same time no surprises.
Few days back after returning from office, was watching some aerobics program along with kids. My daughter on seeing this became enthusiastic, as she had just done Zumba with her favorite aunt couple of days back, wanted to do aerobics and started doing it. She followed the steps and was doing with ease, when I jumped in to join her. Already exhausted from long day of work which started at 4am, I couldn’t continue after few minutes. I went back in the sofa and started watching the program, which was interesting. How would it be, if we can burn the calories by just watching the program? Just a small wish :-D!! Few minutes later, my kiddo was tired too; after all she did have a long day for her age and came back to the sofa telling “avanga Whisper potrupanga ninaikaren”. I was appalled and was not sure what I heard. When I asked her what it was, she replied “I think they wear Whisper, that panty, that’s why they have enough strength to do so long”. (Though she replied everything in Tamil, I want it to be easy for reading). Initially I was bemused; but I recollected my memory on why she told this and remembered some advertisement on Whisper or something else showing that you can go long hours without ____. Now I got the point and I wanted to burst into laugh, but couldn’t, because she might stare at me with a cynic look. I laughed very little and explained it doesn’t work that way, and only the food she takes will help her build strength. Moreover I didn’t want to create some kind of doubt/distrust for her and think her mom is hiding something from her, which might make her gather information in clandestine. That was it and I did not bring the topic again; watched aerobics for a while in silence. Later that day, I shared this with Peter and had a hearty laugh; of course she was not around and was asleep for the day :-). I wanted to share this with friends immediately, but at the same time did not want to share it over the phone. I was waiting to see everyone in person. Though it’s only couple of days since this happened, my impatience is eating me. I couldn’t wait until I see everyone in person, so made a post out of it. This way I can make sure memories are not forgotten and Shreshu will get her chance to look at this at a later point in time and have a laugh to herself; maybe she’ll share this back to me :-).
Monday, October 17, 2011
My Daughter’s Summer Vacation – A Mind Opener!
Now, when I see my daughter in summer vacation, I really feel awful. Last couple of years had been easy on her, since we either had grandparents at home or we travelled to India. This was the first summer vacation when none of this happened and we ended up being on ourselves. Being a house where both parents work, my daughter ended up in a summer camp. All summer long (2.5months), what she knew was to get up at the same time as she did while going to school, do the same chores which she did all year long and leave the house at exactly the same time. In addition to this the summer camp was academic driven; yet another story. I chose a camp which enhances them in their academic strength, so she will be prepared for the aptitude test following school year. She did not have academic work just at the camp, but some homework as well, which I made sure she did. It was such a mechanical routine to wake up, get ready, have breakfast, run to camp, do tests in english, math, patterns, have lunch, continue the same again, come home, relax for may be 10mts, do homeowork, go to bed at the exact same time. As an adult we have the ability to understand and process it ourselves, but as a 6year old kid, my daughter started to feel not just bored, but a big mental stress which she neither was able to explain nor take it as it is. Just after a week or two I felt terrible when she started whining about not going to school, not the camp, but the regular school itself. It was a total shock for us, since all this while (2yrs until now) she has been happy going to school and never wanted to take off even if she was sick. I started realizing what was happening and there came a "Gnanodhayam" for me. That's when I thought of my summer vacation and compared it to hers. It was indeed a mind opener for me and I started changing my attitude towards her homework or for that matter total academics itself.
As a 21st century women, I wish to be working rather than sitting at home, but at the same time, I really feel appalling about the children’s situation. I personally feel they are not given/getting the love and affection which we used to enjoy in our childhood. We were pampered not just by parents, but by all relatives and friends. Also, I guess we had the wonderful childhood one could ever have, not even our parents, at-least mine, when they were all working on the farms in their childhood. All of these thoughts, made me realize how precious and important childhood is and what I should be providing to my children. I changed myself in few ways and still trying to change few other habits/practices at home to come out of the parent role and be a child when I’m with my child; I hope this will help build a good relationship with my kids as well as provide them a memorable childhood.